How To Successfully Befriend Someone of the Opposite Sex

Another UFBG blog post, I finally have a topic I can actually talk proper about! If you have no idea what UFBG stands for or it, you can just see the intro blog post here, and it you think you’re smart enough to figure it out without, then *slow claps*

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As you all know, I have quite a decent amount of guy friends (or I’m just imagining I said so in my previous posts) and it’s mostly because I have certain things or methods that I without knowing use and end up with at least one new guy friend a year. So, I thought why not share if with all you guys, because it also ends up completing my quota for this week and for UFBG!

This works for both gender (why else is the title phrased like that) and has an easy and hard way.

But before you move on to any of it, here’s an important point to keep in mind- it’s not the same as befriending people the same gender as you, so you have to be a little open-minded to what guys/girls’ interests are and also be confident when talking to them. It can be tricky if you’re doing for the first time.

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It won’t really be a step by step guide, but it’ll involve situations with two options (like I sort of just said) and you can choose which one is doable by you!

So you’re spending some time at school/anywhere else where tons of people are there with your buds. Whilst in conversation, you glance across the hallway/or a place across your friends and you notice a guy/girl whom you know or just feel a connection to. 

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The Easy Way: You make a mental note of seeing if you’re in the same classes and say ‘hi’ to them then.

The Hard Way: You excuse yourself from your friends and go an introduce yourself to them. Asking them to hang out with you and your friends could be a choice if they’re new, but if not, you could just find out for common classes and tell them to meet you then.

Now that you finally know them (a little bit), you need to decide how it is you’re going to start to get to know them better! 

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The Easy Way: You just stick to your classes or meeting places, but if they’re nice enough to offer they’re contact details, you could try talking over social media or the phone. *note- this process does take a little bit more time (like almost 3-4 months acc. to me), so if you’re not impatient like me, you’re fine with this process. 

The Hard Way: You feel you need more time a day, so you decide to hang out with his/her friends (if they’re new just see to it you always have them around, unless they need more space) and get to know the other a lot more faster. If you’re daunting enough, you could be the one to ask them for their contact details!

Mostly, by this stage you’re way better friends, and it’s your choice if you want to stay the same or become besties or something.

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Tips: 

  • The main reason many people have trouble is because they’re extremely shy, but trust me, after that first time you get to know them, you might meet tons of new personalities!
  • As mentioned before, the more open-minded you are to what the opposite sex likes, the easier it makes the harder way for you!
  • If you find it extremely difficult to even find people, you’ll need to open your eyes a little more and start talking to your classmates a little more.

Don’ts: 

  • Do NOT try to change yourself for the other just so you can be friends. If this person doesn’t accept you for who you are, then they’re just very stereotypical people.
  • Being too clingy makes the other feel weird or that you have a crush on them (and if you do, take it a notch down, pal), so giving them their space at times won’t get them weirded out…
  • Doing the opposite of the point above just makes it more boring and difficult for you to get them to like you as a friend because they barely get to talk to you, so sort go in the middle of this and the point above.
  • But just because you want a new friend, doesn’t mean you don’t stay true to your gender group. They’re actually the best to help you out, and if your new friends turns out to be a total…(idk), you have them at least to feel better.

So, with a nice smile and personality, go on! Make your new friend!

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If you do have any questions, or your situation is sort of different, just comment down below. Or, if you used a different method, what is it? Just feel free to tell me 🙂

Stay Awesome 😀

 

How My First Day of School went…

Just 3 days ago, I had my first day of school with a lot excitement and dread, and as  it was a very short week (school starting on Wednesday- who does that?) I feel it is worth sharing with people who really give a damn about first days of school.

But before we start I have the honor to tell you that now that I have my school computer (with QWERTY and AZERTY keyboard), I don’t have to worry about getting in trouble for blogging on the family computer!!!!! HURRAY!!!!

You must be thinking What on Earth are you talking about??, and you are ultimately right to think so because I never really mentioned anything like this in any other posts (silly me), but it feels good to share, so please just shut your mouth and keep reading.

Although I did mention that  I was going to do some Sims 3 thingy, but all my pictures are on another computer, and now that I’m a sort of occupied with a higher level of studies and even more homework, I don’t think I’ll really get to play that much (probably not until school’s over)

So let’s just move on to how my first day went:

The first huge problem I had that day (yeah, started out with a problem) was that I just couldn’t get my hair right. If you’re a girl I’m sure you can relate to the fact that when you try it for fun, it turns out perfect, then when you attempt before you go to school, it’s a disaster no matter what. The hairstyle I dearly wanted need something my mom couldn’t seem to find or buy so I made do with leaving my hair down (which is always a mistake after 3 hours into the day).

I was okay until we reached school, but my parents didn’t want me to reach too late, so I reach too early instead. Someone back in the past (no idea when or who) said the early bird gets the worm… Well I think your time had that motto, but in school, if you’re early, you probably will be wasting 30 minutes or so of your life, because all your friends come way later. And it’s even worse on the first day of school, because you have no idea where to meet your friends, and I ended up sticking to girl younger to me until I found other people to meet.

So yeah, my first hour wasn’t that good, but it got a little better once I met this guy, let’s just call him Tom. At first he seemed cool, and quite funny, but once people get comfortable, the TRUTH comes around. All my teachers were quite cool for the ten minutes I spent with them, but now that my classes have doubled in time to 1 hour and 30 minutes, it is hard to imagine how I can survive.

I did spend tons of time with my besties, and actually met two new girls. Now my friend/lunch table group is like 9-10 people huge. Didn’t think of inviting Tom with us, because he’s like the only guy in the group, so I handed him over to my guy friends to take care. Turns out after lunch, he was all alone, even after speaking to the Frenchies who seemed interested in befriending him.

Later when we met our PL Advisory group, we just chilled spoke about how boring or lonely we are in classes and wished for the day to end. I also did find out I have 2 classes with Jake (not his real name).

To end of the day, we just chilled out in the hot rays of sun (and when it should have been that way 3 weeks ago instead of now) and ate Popsicles, even though I threw mine out because I feel I’m the slowest popsicle eater on earth, so never expect me ever be hurried up in the process.

And then I just waited 30 extra minutes for my dad to come in the heat with my annoying brother and went home to just chill. Best boon of the day: no homework on the first day.

How to Survive the First Day/Week of School

If you’re a teen still in Middle School/High School, you know what a battleground the first day of school. And with that horrid day coming up just around the corner, you need to be ready to face whatever obstacles life is going to hurl at you when in school. Parents these days (well all the time) keep assuming that the first day of school is nothing to make a big deal of, and it’ll be totally fine, but they often forget how difficult it is for teens in the 21st century to really fit in like in those days (or it’s easier now, but still). For guys…I’m not really experienced with how they go about in friend-making, but for girls, we all know that first day is the most important day. So I have a list of points all need to keep in mind, a couple for girls, and the same for boys.

For all to KNOW: 

Usually, the one main reason the first day is so, so, SO important is because it is the first day newbies meet the oldies in the school, and because of it; there’s a lot of friend-fishing going on. With the right mindset, a glow of positivity and a smile, you’re likely to meet at least one new person and befriend them along the way. But if that doesn’t happen, it doesn’t mean you’re done for.

Last year, I came into 8th grade with the glowing idea of meeting tons of people, mostly all on the first day. But I didn’t really find one until way later, and that’s how I met my amazing guy friend, let’s just call him Aiden.

Now Aiden wasn’t an easy person to befriend on the first day, as he had already met some other people before me who wanted to get to know him, but after a few more tries, I finally had a brand new friend. So just take it easy and don’t get too pushy on new people you meet, or else they’ll just ignore you.

For all the teens who are once again newbies at a school. 

I totally get your pain. In fact, I became a newbie to the same school for 2 years in a row. One was two months before school ended, and the next was the first year of Middle School.

It is pretty terrifying to go to a completely new school with people you’ve never met before in your life, but it is also a good learning experience for us all to keep in mind in the future. But here’s a few points that might help you survive the day or week with or without a friend.

  • Try and be yourself when meeting new people, because pretending to be someone you’re not usually makes your school life sort of miserable as it isn’t you. So just…BE YOU.
  • If you’re going to a school that doesn’t have uniforms, try and dress as yourself, but decent enough to not get people judging you too much. In my opinion, don’t care what certain types of people will think of your clothing, because if they do say something mean, it just means they don’t have a life or soul (trust me, they really don’t).

  • Be social with anybody you meet. Looks don’t matter, and gender doesn’t matter either. If you remember that, then you probably will have a lunch table to sit at that’ll accept you as their own! (but these days almost everyone, except the snobs in schools let you sit with them)
  • Show off your wonderful and unique personality, let people know what an amazing friend you can be. Leave a good impression of your new to-be-fellow classmates and teachers. If you’re spending this school year with them, they should at least know who it will be.
  • And vice versa, you could try and get to know as many people as you can, especially people in the same classes as you, because it’s always fun class with people you know and like to be friends with (or if you love the subject).

Overall, you probably will make it through the day, because all the returning students will want to get to know you and have you join their group, so just relax, you won’t be a loner that day or after.

For all the oldie girls : 

If you hear the word oldie in this post, just so you know, it does NOT mean old in the sense elderly. It just means, you know…you’ve been there for at least a year so you don’t need to worry about being a loner the first day back. Although, if you’ve had any recent fights that affect your friendship or had a friend move to a different place, then you need to start friend-fishing.

But here’s what I have to say for us girls returning. I don’t know if it applies to majority, but I know TONS of girls are usually only worried about their first day of school outfit and look. Guys reading this must be thinking, yeah, like what they do everyday, but here’s the reason why any girl into clothing/fashion or anyone might do it: to show the new us after about 2 months of vacation. Now it sort of sounds like we’re not being ourselves, but no, it just is a look a bit more mature to show we have grown over certain “things” or habits. Basically, it’s just to say for example “See, now I look like a 9th grader!!! I’ve changed this summer!!!”

Besides the fashion drama, I think the first day of school for girls is more spending time with your besties or crushes for that matter. Not all have that mindset. If you’re not, just comment your drama for the first day of school.

Moving on, us oldie girls just get along the whole day with the help of their friends, and the fact that they’ve been here before means experience, and that means if you see a newbie, you might hit it off. So surviving the day is actually just…I dunno, like enjoying the day…

For all the oldie guys: 

I do apologize in advance if anything I say isn’t true or like too stereotypical, but I just didn’t want a unisex blog post and wanted to like…write more, so I hope what I say helps in any way possible.

In my opinion, I think guys aren’t as stressed out about school as girls are, but I’m just saying with the attitude my brother and other guys behave in. It is sort of scary, especially for all those boys who finally hit puberty and now look much cuter or man-lier than before.

Either that, or it’s more the stress that now there’s like homework to start coming in, but girls do that too.

And…I think I ran out of stuff for this area…yeah, let’s just revert back to both genders…

Summing it up

To sum it all up, everyone is nervous for the first day of school no matter what. The new teachers, new students, higher difficulty in studies, more homework…the list of things to worry about is countless. Some of us teens are super excited about school, meeting their friends after too long, new looks on people. But almost everyone survives the first day and week in ways I’m too lazy to talk about.

And…that’s the end of what I feel one needs to know to survive the first day and/or week of school.

My school seems to have decided to start in just a week. Nervous and excited. Really looking forward to meeting my guy friends, and finding out whose changed and how (puberty can do wonders). More weird and longer schedules this year, but I feel it’s something I can look forward to. What is your “thing” or like…a situation or person you’re looking forward to when school starts? What do you usually do a day before school starts??

I’m curious to know!

Stay Awesome! 😀

 

Why Blogging and Summer don’t work for me…

It’s sort of been a while since I last posted a blog, and, well…here’s why. When a teen like me finally gets a whole month of no school for themselves, or like any person gets such break, they ought to have fun, right? Blogging can be fun at times, but it is hard to muster up all that enthusiasm and deliver a post on that particular day. One reason why, whenever I tell you I’m going to post something every week, don’t try to look forward too much, especially after next week…

Anyways, I actually spent most of my summer SIMMING! Which means I played the Sims 3 for like days (not really because I just got the game two days ago, and played the older version before it…but who cares!). It’s actually a pretty cool book, and I really recommend it for teens who have nothing to do in their life, and would like to waste it away doing nothing with the life of a virtual one (just kidding!)

But here is the truth to anyone who reads my blog. Only expect 1 post from me a week. If you see 2, then I’m probably having a rush of ideas and wanna post them, but otherwise…yeah, just one post. I will try and make up the Ultimate Friendship Guide post by tonight or the end of this week, especially because school’s start soon (mine’s next week!  *panicked runs like a zombie in room*).

I’ve also had this idea of posting of this new legacy challenge I’ve started on Sims 3 (my first one!), and sharing the story with you all. And I think instead of deciding how many kids they have and stuff, I think I’ll just keep it on the opinions of all you viewers out there.

So…that’s all I have to say!

Bon journée tous le monde and Stay Awesome! 😀

 

A Guide to how a Tooth Extraction goes…

Just a few hours ago, I just had a non-painful tooth extraction of my premolars. A huge sacrifice (I feel a part of me left with it…just kidding) and I think for those of you who haven’t yet had a tooth removed in their lives (, here’s how it possibly goes…

BEFORE YOU BEGIN

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  • Because this is your first tooth removal, you might get that twingey (if that is even a word) stomachy (lol) feeling that gives you a feeling of throwing up, even though you know you’re not stupid enough to do so. A good tip to distract yourself is (in my opinion) trying to read any of the magazines you see in the waiting room, and cross fingers that you flip through it in your mind when the dentist does his/her work. 
  • So now that you’re in the dentist’s room (your nerves are going helter skelter cuz you’re so scared) look around and start judging by the room if you think the dentist is nice or a mean one who doesn’t care. Talking to them usually helps you tell better, but usually, I think all dentists are nice and kind. 

IN THE PROCESS

  • I always find it really weird when sitting in the patient’s chair when at a dentist, because it feels very weird when they take the backrest down, and at times my head still stays up instead of relaxing which can at times be pretty embarassing. Next the dentist puts on their light, and you suddenly feel like you’re in a spaceship and there are aliens ready to cut you open to see your insides. (Well, not really, but the fact that your heart starts beating faster because someone’s putting stuff in your mouth and taking it off is like having aliens test on you)
  • I feel the only painful part of this whole procedure is when you’re given the anesthesia, mainly because the needles feel like pinches on your gums (which can be painful for some), and the bitter taste of some liquid that manages to come on your tongue. And being someone who hates bitter stuff (who doesn’t?), I’m too anxious to swallow something the person taking my teeth out puts in my mouth. 
  • Now the anesthesia is kicking in, which is funny and yet very, VERY weird. It’s a feeling like having a HUGE wad of cotton put into your mouth, and pushed against whatever-side-being-operated-on cheek. It is relief though to know you won’t feel a thing, but trust me, you’ll regret it later. 

PULLING THE TOOTH (TEETH)

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  • I think this experience usually differs on the type of teeth you’re getting pulled, but nonetheless, it feels the same in pulling (though a permanent one feels…shocking cuz you though they were permanent for life). 
  • The feeling is like something pushing against your teeth, but you feel no pain, and when it’s out it’s almost like “Wait! When did that get out?” even though if you say no one is going to understand what you just said. 
  • My most favorite part of this whole process is this: Looking at that marvelous tooth that managed to get out, and it’s even cooler for permanents because their roots are soooooo long!  My dentist let me keep them in a cool container 😀
  • Don’t worry about the blood though, because you can’t feel a thing, which is also like saying you have a small bruise, when in reality you have a huge hole which is either gonna be empty forever or a new tooth might appear for the milkies

THE AFTERMATH (usually on the ride home)

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Here’s the part that you regret having anesthesia for 2 main reasons: 

  • You look ridiculous. I don’t want to be offensive to anyone, but it’s the horrible truth. Because half your face is numb, and you can’t feel a thing, it is also very hard to control that part, so when you laugh, smile or even try to make a straight face, your mouth will look completely asymmetrical. But don’t worry, once the anesthesia wears off (which is at least 3-4 hours), your whole face will be completely fine. Even the funny talking which you’ll have will wear off, but more quickly than the face.
  • The PAIN gains consciousness. A horrible experience for me just this morning, you’ll feel like you’re in a horror movie (more like the ones where you’re possessed), and you’re the villain torturing the people around you (especially your parents and/siblings). The pain gets unbearable unless you take your prescribes painkillers on time, and please see to it you get home immediately, because if you’re young, and your parents go shopping and decide to leave you in the car, people might think you’re kidnapped and crying for help.

Now when you’re home there are a few things you need to be prepared for, and it will either be something to look forward to, or something to dread. 

  • You won’t be able to eat from one side of mouth because of open wound. It does get tempting if it’s a tooth a bit more to the front, but trust me (even though I haven’t tried), you wouldn’t want food going into those gaping holes.
  • The HORROR you see before you…when you look at yourself in the mirror. I’m not saying everyone does it, but many are curious enough to know how weird or changed their mouths look, whether they can smile without showing the gap and whatnot one would like to know through imagery, after having their tooth removed.
  • Missing your tooth. You might not be sentimental, and you might not really care about losing stuff, but for some reason, that open space where your tooth was, really does make you miss it no matter who you are. *sad music in background*
  • And last of all…ICE CREAM!!!! A number 1 healing your soul and reducing your pain product, this is one thing to always look forward to after an extraction, and flavour doesn’t matter, as long as it is cool and tasty 😀

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That does it for how a tooth extraction day goes for person, with me happily writing to you about with a still slightly numb mouth, and an ice-cream filled stomach. Do share (comment) your experiences, and if you have any questions, just comment them below!

Stay Awesome! 😉

What is “The Ultimate Friendship Blog Guide” ?

Ze ultimate friendship blog guide is a long name, but it  means exactly what is says. These days, whenever I get into weird arguments or problems with my friend life in school, I often turn to Google for my answers, but for some weird reason, it ends up just complicating my whole life and I’m left with more questions than answers.

So, I decided it’s time for me to make good use of all this spare time I have in a day and start my own guide to problems in any friendships, all based on my experience so far. Even though I know posting on this daily is gonna be pretty tough once I run out of ideas, but there’s no harm in trying for once.

A UFBG post once a week, here’s what it can be about:

  • Dealing with friend problems
  • Friend tips
  • Surviving an unsolvable friend issue…

And that’s about all I can think of so far. Also, this post doesn’t count, so look forward to it if you like, or you can just go on with life and read this stuff whenever you feel necessary.

Stay Awesome!! 🙂

Make your Own Kawaii Cat-tato! ^=^

Interested in making your own Kawaii Cat?? Follow this step-by-step DIY to unleash your cuteness!

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No idea how you rotate a pic on WordPress…

Part 1: The Drawing part

Step One: Get your drawing and coloring material to get started.

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You’ll need:

  • A piece of paper (or two)
  • A pencil case with stuff like pencils, an eraser, a marker pen (if it’s black and thin, it’ll do)
  • Color pencils or anything that you can color with and it has your fave shades
  • A scooby-doo if you get bored
  • An iPod or something to listen to for inspiration while you draw

Step Two: To start off your cat, draw a huge oval (like a potato); The size isn’t final. If you want a chubby cat, a smaller potato can be drawn, or if you want a big and slim one, a longer potato. No potato is the same.

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Step Three: To really make the difference between a potato and a cat-tato, one needs their own perfect set of cat ears. There’s no specific type of ear, so it is all up to your imagination of your typical cat-tato to design the different body parts in this DIY.

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Step Four: Now that you have your cat-tato half recognizable, it’s time to add the most important element in this drawing that makes this a kawaii cat. The eyes are supposedly circular, but creativity has no limits, so any shape according to your tastes is fine. You also need to draw two ovals, one big, and diagonally opposite to it, a smaller oval. The mouth, in my drawing is like a small “w” but it’s curves are wider.

Step Five: Paws are optional, but it does help in emphasizing a lot more the cat features of this kawaii potato. As always your creativity can take over for this step instead of copying what I’ve drawn.

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Step Six: It’s time for your cat’s tail. It could be fluffy, simple, spotty, striped or hued, and it’s placement is up to you, but I best prefer to keep it at the side.

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Step Seven: Another optional feature, this is a simple petal-like hair style for your cat-tato that can also have patterns on it!

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Step Eight: Now that we’re at the end of the drawing part, you can choose to add certain patterns to your drawing a streak in the petal-hair, or a contrast in the ears. I usually prefer to leave my cat-tatos as a sketch as it looks pretty that way, but it seems they look cuter in color (friends’ opinions).

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Part 2: COLORING TIME!!!!

Now before you begin the fun part of this DIY, the choice of outlining the cat is completely upto you, though I suggest you at least outline the eyes. If you choose to outline, please see to it the marker has a thin point as my first attempt completely failed with a thicker marker.

Me being a girl who often ends up forgeting when the most important pictures come, I completely forgot to take pics when I was busy coloring it in, but here’s briefly what I did.

Firstly I decided to use two shades of purple for the various body parts, and a cute pink color for the body and parts of the tail. To give it a sort of tinged look I used both the purple shades (violet and purple) together. 

Secondly (a part that I ended up photographing) I added a few stripes (3-4 is best) and outline the whole cat (the pencil marks) with the darkest color I used. 

And you have finally have an adorable Kawaii Cat-tato. My very own design I feel proud to end up drawing it again for others to try and would love to know it you’d like some more!

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Ze final product! 

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And if you feel like it, you can cut it out and put it anywhere you like 😀

Stay Awesome!! 🙂