If you’re a teen still in Middle School/High School, you know what a battleground the first day of school. And with that horrid day coming up just around the corner, you need to be ready to face whatever obstacles life is going to hurl at you when in school. Parents these days (well all the time) keep assuming that the first day of school is nothing to make a big deal of, and it’ll be totally fine, but they often forget how difficult it is for teens in the 21st century to really fit in like in those days (or it’s easier now, but still). For guys…I’m not really experienced with how they go about in friend-making, but for girls, we all know that first day is the most important day. So I have a list of points all need to keep in mind, a couple for girls, and the same for boys.
For all to KNOW:
Usually, the one main reason the first day is so, so, SO important is because it is the first day newbies meet the oldies in the school, and because of it; there’s a lot of friend-fishing going on. With the right mindset, a glow of positivity and a smile, you’re likely to meet at least one new person and befriend them along the way. But if that doesn’t happen, it doesn’t mean you’re done for.
Last year, I came into 8th grade with the glowing idea of meeting tons of people, mostly all on the first day. But I didn’t really find one until way later, and that’s how I met my amazing guy friend, let’s just call him Aiden.
Now Aiden wasn’t an easy person to befriend on the first day, as he had already met some other people before me who wanted to get to know him, but after a few more tries, I finally had a brand new friend. So just take it easy and don’t get too pushy on new people you meet, or else they’ll just ignore you.
For all the teens who are once again newbies at a school.
I totally get your pain. In fact, I became a newbie to the same school for 2 years in a row. One was two months before school ended, and the next was the first year of Middle School.
It is pretty terrifying to go to a completely new school with people you’ve never met before in your life, but it is also a good learning experience for us all to keep in mind in the future. But here’s a few points that might help you survive the day or week with or without a friend.
- Try and be yourself when meeting new people, because pretending to be someone you’re not usually makes your school life sort of miserable as it isn’t you. So just…BE YOU.
- If you’re going to a school that doesn’t have uniforms, try and dress as yourself, but decent enough to not get people judging you too much. In my opinion, don’t care what certain types of people will think of your clothing, because if they do say something mean, it just means they don’t have a life or soul (trust me, they really don’t).
- Be social with anybody you meet. Looks don’t matter, and gender doesn’t matter either. If you remember that, then you probably will have a lunch table to sit at that’ll accept you as their own! (but these days almost everyone, except the snobs in schools let you sit with them)
- Show off your wonderful and unique personality, let people know what an amazing friend you can be. Leave a good impression of your new to-be-fellow classmates and teachers. If you’re spending this school year with them, they should at least know who it will be.
- And vice versa, you could try and get to know as many people as you can, especially people in the same classes as you, because it’s always fun class with people you know and like to be friends with (or if you love the subject).
Overall, you probably will make it through the day, because all the returning students will want to get to know you and have you join their group, so just relax, you won’t be a loner that day or after.
For all the oldie girls :
If you hear the word oldie in this post, just so you know, it does NOT mean old in the sense elderly. It just means, you know…you’ve been there for at least a year so you don’t need to worry about being a loner the first day back. Although, if you’ve had any recent fights that affect your friendship or had a friend move to a different place, then you need to start friend-fishing.
But here’s what I have to say for us girls returning. I don’t know if it applies to majority, but I know TONS of girls are usually only worried about their first day of school outfit and look. Guys reading this must be thinking, yeah, like what they do everyday, but here’s the reason why any girl into clothing/fashion or anyone might do it: to show the new us after about 2 months of vacation. Now it sort of sounds like we’re not being ourselves, but no, it just is a look a bit more mature to show we have grown over certain “things” or habits. Basically, it’s just to say for example “See, now I look like a 9th grader!!! I’ve changed this summer!!!”
Besides the fashion drama, I think the first day of school for girls is more spending time with your besties or crushes for that matter. Not all have that mindset. If you’re not, just comment your drama for the first day of school.
Moving on, us oldie girls just get along the whole day with the help of their friends, and the fact that they’ve been here before means experience, and that means if you see a newbie, you might hit it off. So surviving the day is actually just…I dunno, like enjoying the day…
For all the oldie guys:
I do apologize in advance if anything I say isn’t true or like too stereotypical, but I just didn’t want a unisex blog post and wanted to like…write more, so I hope what I say helps in any way possible.
In my opinion, I think guys aren’t as stressed out about school as girls are, but I’m just saying with the attitude my brother and other guys behave in. It is sort of scary, especially for all those boys who finally hit puberty and now look much cuter or man-lier than before.
Either that, or it’s more the stress that now there’s like homework to start coming in, but girls do that too.
And…I think I ran out of stuff for this area…yeah, let’s just revert back to both genders…
Summing it up
To sum it all up, everyone is nervous for the first day of school no matter what. The new teachers, new students, higher difficulty in studies, more homework…the list of things to worry about is countless. Some of us teens are super excited about school, meeting their friends after too long, new looks on people. But almost everyone survives the first day and week in ways I’m too lazy to talk about.
And…that’s the end of what I feel one needs to know to survive the first day and/or week of school.
My school seems to have decided to start in just a week. Nervous and excited. Really looking forward to meeting my guy friends, and finding out whose changed and how (puberty can do wonders). More weird and longer schedules this year, but I feel it’s something I can look forward to. What is your “thing” or like…a situation or person you’re looking forward to when school starts? What do you usually do a day before school starts??
I’m curious to know!
Stay Awesome! 😀